{"id":1124,"date":"2007-04-10T02:26:00","date_gmt":"2007-04-10T02:26:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.somewhereinnj.com\/?p=1124"},"modified":"2014-10-01T03:34:49","modified_gmt":"2014-10-01T03:34:49","slug":"moms-vase","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.somewhereinnj.com\/?p=1124","title":{"rendered":"Mom&#8217;s vase"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.somewhereinnj.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2007\/04\/P4090111-copy.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5051590383679099234\" style=\"FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand\" alt=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/www.somewhereinnj.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2007\/04\/P4090111-copy-225x300.jpg\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><span style=\"font-size:85%;\">Even after 13+ years of marriage, it&#8217;s still sort of awkward-feeling for me to call my mother-in-law *mom*, but I&#8217;m getting better about it. I never felt comfortable calling my father-in-law *dad* or even *Hank* as he would have preferred it, instead it was always the formal Mr. followed by our family name. That was just as well, I guess; he couldn&#8217;t often seem to even remember my name, and instead called me *girl* with the sweetest Southern drawl. The rest of his daughters-in-law were not so tenderly regarded as I.<\/span><br \/><span style=\"font-size:85%;\"><\/span><br \/><span style=\"font-size:85%;\">She&#8217;s been bugging me for the last year or so to choose a piece of crystal from her china cabinet that I&#8217;d like to have.  I&#8217;ve avoided doing so, partly because I have no need of any crystal, but more because I understand the thinking that&#8217;s behind her wanting to give away these treasured things.  She&#8217;s been thinking and talking that way for a few years now since my father-in-law passed away.  For a very long time she was depressed and talked of wanting to go be with her dear Hank.  Her first great-grandchild seems to have turned her around and I&#8217;m glad for that, but still she has this need to give away her things.<\/span><br \/><span style=\"font-size:85%;\"><\/span><br \/><span style=\"font-size:85%;\">So I relented yesterday and took this Waterford crystal vase and filled it with roses.  It&#8217;s the perfect size for a small bouquet of very short-stemmed flowers, yet seems out of place in my no frills early americana style dining room.  I like that sort of contrast and how it reminds me of her and how different our lives are.  I chose it because rather than being something to be treasured and tucked away, it&#8217;s  a beautiful thing that I can put to use.  And my taking it made her happy.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Even after 13+ years of marriage, it&#8217;s still sort of awkward-feeling for me to call my mother-in-law *mom*, but I&#8217;m getting better about it. I never felt comfortable calling my father-in-law *dad* or even *Hank* as he would have preferred it, instead it was always the formal Mr. followed by our family name. That was &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.somewhereinnj.com\/?p=1124\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Mom&#8217;s vase<\/span> <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3637,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[15,9],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.somewhereinnj.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1124"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.somewhereinnj.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.somewhereinnj.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.somewhereinnj.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.somewhereinnj.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1124"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.somewhereinnj.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1124\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.somewhereinnj.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/3637"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.somewhereinnj.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1124"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.somewhereinnj.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1124"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.somewhereinnj.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1124"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}